Social Contexts

tumblr_mk7wtrCkOX1rrgft7o1_500For your information: I use Twitter and this blog feeds to it. There’s often fresh content there, which is not shared here, because I occasionally do status updates or reblog. I use Tumblr in a similar way, but there are two blogs there. One only points to places I appear on the net and gives access to my YouTube music playlist for Radiances. The other Tumblr blog mirrors this blog, but also has fresh content, not seen here. This fresh content is generally highly explicit gif files, so the Tumblr feed content is rated X. I have YouTube associated with this blog. My channel has music playlists. Feel free to subscribe. One in particular is of music posted here on Radiances. Google+ offers only another place to feed this blog. There’s almost never any new content, because I’m not crazy about how media is imparted there, but there’s a huge crowd of erotic blogger blogs there, who might enjoy Radiances. At this point, with Facebook demanding that I associate all blogging activities here with my real-time name, I will not be using Facebook for this blog. For the record, I think they are right in keeping to their original rules about real profile users, but I’m still bummed about it. I think they should simply mark the profile as a pseudonym prominently and let anyone use it.

The reason for these social media outlets is to share my writing, but also to read others writing. Blogging used to be all about the rss feeds and email subscriptions. The comments section was heavily used, because people surfed directly to blogs. People don’t read like that anymore. They go to their favored social media and that’s it. If they comment, they do so only at the social media site; maybe never visiting the blog directly at all. Thus these are the primary venues for letting people know about one’s art and finding others of like mind. At the moment, (Feb 2015 when this post was last updated) my blog is really tiny, but growing slowly.

Generally, links leading away from this blog opens a new tab in your browser. There is no spam on WordPress and I really don’t like and won’t use webhooks to push anything on my feed. WordPress tracks the number of visitors, and what pages they viewed. If a visitor followed a link to the blog, WordPress counts how many times that happened from the webpage the link was on. They do not sell this information like Facebook, Twitter and other social media outlets do. Social media outlets report to WordPress on how many people have followed profiles associated with this blog. WordPress also collects the places this blog is linked to and the number of reblogs, shares, pluses, and tweets on specific posts to include in stats on this blog, via track backs, which all websites use, unless their owner excludes them. And that’s it. Again, WordPress does not treat your visits and other displays of interest in this blog in a spammy way.

If  you are concerned about my content appearing on your personal feed, it may interest you to know that my content, in at least some of these outlets, is only linked, which makes Radiances appear g rated in some kinds of feeds. With Twitter, it’s just a link and the post title. Post titles aren’t usually erotic. I prefer that. Google+ will include images from my posts here on your social media feed; as will Tumblr. Keep this in mind if you want to browse while at work.

I generally do not comment on anything of an erotic nature on social media accounts. I may reblog something, but it is nearly always about literature, social justice, affirming quotes or science. If I post or tweet a status it’s rated pg-13. If I wish to make sexy comments, I go directly to a site to do so. Thus Radiances could be work friendly, so long as you don’t open links to this blog while in mixed company. I repeat, Tumblr is never work friendly!

Comments to this blog or my profiles are very welcome. I am not brazen in my return comments any place else on the net. I may be brazen here, but only with folks I’ve connected with a long while, and never in a way that makes Remus feel sad. Private conversations will follow the same vein, but I really will answer anything that doesn’t denigrate my relationship or reveal my identity to an unknown person.

If you share my content, you must credit me. I will credit yours when I know who created it. Most of the artwork posted here comes from google search or another erotic blog, and generally not for months or years after I first collected it.

You are always welcome to contact me via email. My email address is listed in the footer of the blog.

Most people who respond to me on social media are lovely people. But some aren’t. If I decide you aren’t nice, then I will relegate your emails, posts and comments to spam and ban or mute you. Why would I do this? Because life’s too short to deal with irritating, mean people. That said, sometimes before I mute, I may let mean people know what I think. Be fairly warned, if I do comment back to a mean person they will be dressed down utterly and politely. They will not get the last word.

Things that may get you muted/banned include, but are not limited, to:

  • Being racist, sexist, homophobic or other varieties of bigotry;
  • Being insulting;
  • Having your understanding of social/political issues clearly confined to cue cards provided to you by others;
  • Being creepy;
  • Trying to pick a fight with me;
  • Trying to pick me up in an unflattering, obnoxious manner;
  • Stalking (following me in multiple places not included);
  • Extreme, willful stupidity;
  • Just generally being an asshole.

I have only rarely run into anyone who behaves this way. I can count on my fingers the number of times since I started blogging in 2006 (no need for toes). I have learned that if I am completely direct in all my communication, I have no trouble nearly a hundred percent of the time. This last was for those very few exceptions.

Feel free to flirt respectfully. Feel free to ask me any question. Here on Radiance, I encourage conversation. While this is a very personal journal, primarily about a specific relationship, discussions are welcome on nearly any topic. I love to talk literature, science, social justice, ecology, biology, healing, yoga, music…you name it, thus I often share articles I found really fun or informative. Just leave a comment.

If you have content and your content is tasteful and in keeping with my belief systems, I will allow a link to your site to appear in comments. Hell I might put it up in a post without you asking if I grow excited about what you are doing, so please do be social here.

I adore fine erotic art, especially if it’s an unusual composition or is whimsical, but only if the color palettes complement my theme. If I fall in love with your work, even if it doesn’t fit with the elegant presence already found on Radiances, you’ll at least get a link to your work on the web.

If your erotic writing is tasteful, skillfully written and in keeping with the tone and topics already found on Radiances, I welcome guest posts. Any writing genre is welcome. Please submit to poeticradiance at gmail dot com. You must have a WordPress profile to guest post here, so that your work may be given official author credit.

I hope to see you ’round the net. Share the waves…




This is a mesmerizing video, but the narration that accompanies the imagery, is a fabulous and insightful reflection on trust. If the embedded video doesn’t work (as happens with blogs that are adult oriented), you’ll find the video here.