Below are a few links to posts that myth bust the idea that polyamory is all about sex. For me it is foremost about friendship and love. Remus and I are actively pursuing bdsm friendships. We play separately and together at play parties. Our times with others is sensual, sexy, affectionate, loving, perhaps even romantic, but it is asexual, at least presently. We may never venture beyond this, but its fun and fulfilling just as it is.
Here’s what a few others have to say about this:
A Nice Thing About Polyamory by The Ferrett
My Ace Poly Manifesto by cerberustheasexual
What Is Solo Polyamory by aggiesez